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 Yes Yes It sucks and I mean it.  Most times, we can't come to terms with happenings around us. We tend to dwell more in our minds and heads, not really caring if we are doing it right or not. I for one know what it's like prolly because I wallow in fantasies a lot but then if you keep on drowning yourself in your thoughts, you're paving ways for depression. Let's all come to terms with the saying that nothing lasts forever. Reality brings you out from the fantasy wall you've built into a world that's uncomprehending. This topic came from a thought in my head and boy did it take me a while to find words to give birth to this piece. For the first time since I started this blog, I had a writer's block and that's when it dawned on me that nothing is actually perfect. Things don't go smoothly all the time. Your reality might be scary, weird, blurry, confusing but that's what makes it reality . It's not a bed of Roses. In reality, shit happens. In...

      Happy World Mental Health Day What better day than today to share my little story. Recently I have been having sucidal  thoughts. I went into the depression zone. I would say I got tired of life. I didn't have anyone to talk to about it because I felt no one will truly understand what I'm going through. But then in the process of thinking. It struck me that committing suicide is a big sin. So it's a loss for me even after life and that was when the inspiration for this particular blog post came in. Not many people know when they are going off. Not many are enlightened on their mental health prolly because of the way the world is going.  Our mental health is linked with both our spiritual and physical being. Once you are not psychologically stable, you're whole life becomes an uproar. You canj't function normally. Most times you are being referred to as  MAD.  Not everyone knows that they are having a mental breakdown.  When you start wallowi...

Howdy😁 So have you ever been in a situation where you know the answer to a particular question but you are too afraid or rather shy. Well I can totally relate. Let me just share a little story with you. I was in a class and then the teacher asked a question. I had an idea of the answer but couldn't answer because I felt unsure of myself so I just kept quiet. When he eventually said the answer, I was heartbroken because I knew the answer. I wish I could just speak up. I felt bad and to make matters worst, he kept on saying that word. From then on I told myself that if he asks another question, whether I'm right or not I'll surely answer. Long story short, he didn't ask another question 😂. I was pained. Courage is the ability to do things that are frightening. Being courageous means overcoming things that are too big for you to handle. We all have that fear that doesn't want us to be a step ahead. It makes us feel insecure. But...

I'm back o😁. I hope I was missed Howdy lovely people, it's been a while but ain't we all busy? Anyway our topic of interest today is ADDICTIONS.  According to Wikipedia, Addiction is a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences.  Not all of us are good at English so simply put, Addiction is a repeated act of doing a particular thing be it negative or positive and also has it's own consequences. When people hear the word addicton, the first thing that comes to mind is "drugs". So I would like to clear the air, not every addict is a drug addict. For instance, I used to be a sucker for phones. I can't stay five minutes without touching my phone. You can just imagine. There are other things I'm actually addicted to but I'm working on it and I'm glad that I'm finally finding my way out of them. Other Addictions include: ~Gambling Addiction ~Sex Addiction ~Phone Addiction ~Internet Add...

Hi guys😊, I'm back from the very long break and I guess I was greatly missed 🤭. So our topic of discussion today is Believe.  It is a cure to fear. For those of you who remember, in our last session,  I said we are going to deal with how to overcome fear and voila, here we are.  Believe simply put means having faith in something or someone. Our focus is on believing in yourself and I mean you. Like I said before, Fear is a negative vibe that distabilises humans. So we can see Believe as a Positive vibe. Most times the human mind is weakened by what it sees, hears or feels and so it needs to be tricked into believing it can overcome. There was a particular time in my life when I just felt like I couldn't take it anymore. I just couldn't control what was happening in my life. To be sincere, I was scared of living. I came in contact with a friend who was living life like it will end the next day. She made me realize that there's nothing to be scared of especially since I...

Heyo😁 Its been a while and I want to sincerely apologise for my absence. The topic of interest today is FEAR. A very interesting topic and also one crazy emotion. It's a feeling that distabilises the mind, the soul and also the body. Virtually every human has been there and it's not pleasing😞. It brings a sense of insecurity and leaves one distraught after the damage has been done. FEAR is a controlling agent in the lives of human. It makes you do things you've never done, go to lengths you've never gone through before. There are times when it even drives one crazy, I've been there so I know how it feels but do you know that you are most times the cause of uour fear. It's been brooding in your mind for a while and then one day BOOM, it surfaces. FEAR comes from the mind. When you already have a feeling of low self-esteem, fear comes in. If you notice, it comes regularly and when I say regularly I mean when we are about to do something big like...

No one knew the course time was going to take nor the path it will follow, but I kept my fingers crossed. I ached for the day I prayed in my heart I wanted to feel something different, you know, like a moment, cause it was the EIGHTEENTH  time and likewise the first. Weeks passed Days also passed Hours faded like the morning mist😞 And finally, it came. I woke up expecting a new feeling or sensation, but none came. Truth be told, it was like any other day. But wait!!!!! I see a cake I see lights I can't believe this is happening and BOOM goes the merry song. My joy knew no bounds I felt relieved "This quarantine might not be bad after all" a little voice in my head said. You don't need a lot, you just need your family and friends and all will be alright. The smile on my face was like that of the rainbow, never ending. Not much was done but the love that I received was enough to last me for a lifetime.

Heyo, So we are going to continue from where we stopped last time and I bet you it will be amazing. I've been privileged to meet some women who have passed through a lot in life and when I mean been through a lot, I mean hell....... But they actually overcame. For you as a woman to stand out in life and also move on, you have to let go of whatever has been done to you.  You might have been rejected, dejected or even molested but then you have to leave the past in the past if truly you want to find a purpose in life as a woman.  I may be going deep but then that's what it takes for WOMEN to embrace themselves. Like I said before, WOMEN are great and great people always find a way to sort out their problems. I just wish people will stop blaming others for their problems or actions. It doesn't actually pay..if you know what I mean. So there is one thing I figured out that which is common with women and that is their limitations. We women tend to say t...

Hello people, It's me dese So this is my first post and i decided to make women my first topic. It might seem strange but i bet you that it's gonna be awesome. WOMEN are beautiful species created to manage and balance life. They are the reason why they say "variety is the spice of life". Yes, they are delicate yet strong. They seem to know how to bring out the life from dull moments. I'm not just saying this because i am a woman, it's because it's the truth. For instance, you attend a party where they are only men( no offense to the men), you  find out that they only sit down and talk which i guess some people, both men and women, find boring..but if there are women, you find out that there is life in such a party. My point is simple. WOMEN are great. I hate it when I hear that I can't do this especially when it comes from a woman. That statement alone limits the woman from achieving her goals.It makes her to also belittle her fellow women ...