TimeoutwithDESE

  I woke up to songs from an overjoyed man this morning. Usually, things like this irked me because I don't like my beauty sleep being disrupted but this time I listened to this man. The manner in which he sang made me warm. He was so grateful that he made it to the end.  I'm sure he made many mistakes this year but God saw him through it all and I understood why he was so happy. Hey You, feeling sad that you didn't meet up to your expectations? You're not in the mortuary yet. Hey You, feeling like your goals would have all been fulfilled by this year end but it didn't work out that way? The world has not ended yet. Hey You, feeling like you didn't attain any heights this year? Well, check it out, at least you're taller than some people. Hey You, feeling like you should put more effort in the coming days? You definitely should. Stagnation is a disease. Hey You, feeling like you should have taken the bull by the horns and approached that special someone? If y...

  Your circle determines a lot. It's not just about being there for each other. It's not just about understanding each other. It goes beyond care too. DO THEY LIGHT YOUR PATH? As a person, you need people to grow. You can't do it all alone.  You're not Four Arms .  One thing I tell myself, God won't come down to stop you or save you from something. He has already sent his son for that reason, so if there's danger lurking, a message to pass, a gift to share, who would he use? Definitely, a person connected to you! The people around you. The people who are closest to you. You might have a bias. Your reason might be that strangers also help people.  Some people might even say most of the assistance they get is from strangers. It can't be disputed, so going deeper will breed more understanding. It all starts with the definition of the word Help.  Help means to aid, assistance rendered. The way the world sees help now is quite disheartening. If I don...

I think y'all have to wire my aza because my soothsaying skills have become top-notch. I gave you a heads-up about October. I hope you had a plan. I would describe mine as bittersweet. A beautiful beginning with a rollercoaster ending. I'm pretty sure everybody had their share.  Some got crumbs, and others, Lion's Share. I think I fall in the category of others. What about you? Regardless of the category, I hope you didn't fall off the radar. Cause I did, and I fell hard.  October was razz for me. At first, I was dividing myself into two, which is a lot, and by the middle of October, I was into three.  Let me not even get started about the end part because it was not funny. 😪 So yes, I did fall, and the crazy thing is, I didn't want to get back up. The stress was three much. In my mind, I thought if I put myself back up, I won't be able to hold fast. I just wanted it all to end.  Then I came to a realization. It never ends.  Funny enough, that's what life...

September has taught us a lot. October will teach us more. I'm sure some things have happened this month that have left you in awe. It may have been good or bad. What's important is, did you learn from it?  Did it make you think otherwise? The most important question: Did you plan it? I followed the burial of Her Majesty, Queen Elizabeth II, very closely for two reasons. One, because I'm a lover of history. I get a sense of satisfaction when history is made, and her death is definitely history. The second reason is that I saw a video on how the Queen's burial had been planned even before her death. I wanted to see if they'll fall through with it, and to my utmost surprise, it went accordingly, with more things to fall into play now that King Charles III is on the throne. If you watched it, you had seen how organized they were. From the Royal family down to the people who came to pay their last respects. This burial was planned even before the Queen died,...

GET HELP! I started writing at an early stage.  It was mainly for pleasure at the time.  It helped me gain a hold on a subject I wanted to master. So when I experienced writer's block, I didn't take it seriously because I didn't see writing as a principle back then. With time, I saw myself getting more engrossed in writing. It came easy to me. It became a medium of expression. I'm angry, I write. I'm happy, I write. I'm sad, I write. Whatever emotion, I pen it down. It became my solace. The need for people to hear me came, and that's when my blog was birthed.  I didn't even know about niches. All I wanted to do was write. So I started TIMEOUTWITHDESE. Published my first article. I was nervous at first. It was the first time people were going to see my work. I felt like a mother; who was sending her child outside for the first time. So many funny thoughts ran through my mind, but I did it. Then came the responses from people.  My heart melted....

There's this silly saying that "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus".  Very funny. But looking at it from a different point of view, you'll see that it's actually true.  Mars is the fourth planet away from the Sun and it's really cold and unfortunately that's how the world sees them.  Cold-hearted...  Cruel   Heartless    Insensitive     Inhuman Only one gender. Not easy yeah? Have you ever wondered why the antagonist in most romance novels are women? Or why both male and female authors dwell so much on them (women) like there's only one gender on earth? Well it's easy, men are a whole lot complex species. In this little time I've spent on earth, I've had my fair share of interacting with them and trust me when I say they're easy to understand I'm a totally different way. As a child, I watched the way my brothers were treated, quite different I must say. Although I am the most senior out of all my siblings, my dad...

Imagine a person you got to know recently;(there's already a positive bond forming) comes at you and accuses you of something that naturally you wouldn't do but in fact did out of compulsion or hopelessness.  What would be your reaction? If defense, embarrassment, anger, sadness, or even shock doesn't pop up in your mind then I guess you're just a robot, and no I'm not referring to the Kdrama robot but one without feelings or appropriately put, a conscience. For those with feelings, you might say things like: "You don't understand", " That's not how it is", "You don't know me", "Don't judge me" and all that. Alright so focus on the last two statements.  Of course, he or she doesn't know you! It's a new relationship; one in its early stages. It means they're not wrong but then 'They don't know you so they have no right to judge you or your intentions'. Now think about a situ...

Have you ever gone on Social media, particularly WhatsApp and decide that you'll use a few moments to just go through statuses. You come across things that make you cringe, some make you happy, some make you sad and some brings out an ugly head that will just weaken your mind and break your self esteem. Very crazy indeed. From there you start asking yourself questions that can either build you up or bring you down. Everytime I create a new post on my blog, I go through a lot of doubts asking myself if it's good enough or if people actually read what I post or if it even creates a spark in someone's mind to keep pushing (Pushing P😂) and guess what, if the negative thought supercedes the positive, I'll just tell myself, "Wo, just give up abegggi" and to think I actually do it🙂. There's this song that lives rent-free in my head. I heard it from a Disney cartoon I watched years ago. "Look at me,  I would never pass for a perfect bride Or a perfect d...